双语究竟什么是成功

你对成功的定义是一个致命错误吗?接下来，小编给大家准备了双语究竟什么是成功,欢迎大家参考与借鉴。

For some, success is defined in terms of the dollar amount on a paycheck. For others, it's the title on their business card. Others may define success in terms of the accolades1 and awards they have won.

有些人用薪水定义成功。对另一些人来说，成功是名片上的头衔。其它人也许根据赞誉和奖励来定义。

But the problem with how people define success these days is that when they're forced to change it, they can't. Look at the businessmen who have committed suicide because they have lost fortunes. Consider the workers who are fired and then go back to work, armed with a gun.

对于很多人来说，问题在于，让他们改变自己对于成功的定义是不可能的。看看那些因为损失钱财而自杀的商人，想想被解雇后带了一只枪回公司的员工。

Extreme cases, sure. Not everyone considers killing2 themselves or others when their livelihood3 is threatened. But it does point out that maybe we need to revisit our own definition of success.

当然，这些都是极端例子。并不是每个人在生计受到威胁的时候会自杀或杀人。但这的确说明，也许我们需要重新定义成功。

Start by completing this definition: "Success to me is...."

首先，完成这个句子：“成功对我而言是......”

After you complete this sentence, then review it and determine if you're on the path to achieving that success. If you were to lose your job or money tomorrow, would your definition of success still be valid4? Or, would you consider yourself a failure?

当你完成了这个句子，然后重新审视一下，你是否处于取得这种成功的轨道上。如果你明天失去工作或钱财，你对成功的定义还有效吗?你会认为自己是一个失败者吗?

I remember a job where I worked long, stressful hours and often labored5 for a boss who had mood swings like a freaking roller coaster. It made for a tense situation, to say the least. One day I was talking to a co-worker and the exhaustion6 was overwhelming. I felt so dissatisfied, frustrated7 and even angry. Then it hit me: If I died that day, I didn't want the only thing on my tombstone to be "Always met her deadlines."

我曾长期从事一份有压力的工作，情绪无常的老板让人心力交瘁，至少让局势紧张。一天，同事交谈时，我感到筋疲力尽。我觉得非常不满、沮丧甚至是愤怒。突然萌生一个想法：如果我那天死了，我可不愿意我的墓志铭只有一句：“总能按时完成任务。”

Ugh, I remember thinking. I wanted my life to account for more than that. It wasn't until months later that I started making some real changes in my life, changes that I know made me much better able to balance my life and devote time and effort to more than my job.

呃，我思考着，我希望生活有更多意义。数月后，我开始对生活做出一些切实改变，让我更能平衡生活，而不只是把时间和精力花在工作上。

Right now, times are tough and some of us are beginning to panic. But I think it's a golden opportunity to really think about what is important in your life, and weed out the things that don't really matter.

时下不景气，有些人开始惊恐。但是我认为这是一个千载难逢的机会，让你认真思考你的生活中什么是重要的，并剔除那些不要紧的东西。

You are the one who must define what success is to you. One thing I know for sure: You are more than a job title, you are worth more than a number on a paycheck and you are more than an award to hang on your wall. Is the destination you have in mind worth the road you must travel? Only you can answer that.

只有你自己能为自己定义成功。有一点我清楚：你不只意味着一个头衔，不只意味着工资单上的数字，也不只意味着挂在墙上的那个奖励。为了到达你心中的目的地，你一定得走这样一条路吗? 只有你能回答。

　　扩展：怎样提升自尊感

Maybe you've lost your job. Maybe you didn't get the promotion1 you were hoping for. Maybe your sweetheart broke up with you. People say "Don't take it personally" and "Don't let it get to you," but that's very hard to do.

也许你失业了，也许你没有获得期待中的晋升，也许心上人甩了你。人们说：“别放在心上”、“别让这事影响你”，但是要做到却十分难。

If you're feeling disheartened, what are some strategies for making yourself feel better about yourself? It's pretty clear that repeating "I'm the greatest!" or winning a trophy2 along with every other second-grade soccer player isn't a good way to build healthy self-esteem.

如果你这个时侯感到心灰意冷，有没有什么方法让自己感觉好一些? 重复“我是最伟大的!”或去和所有其他二流足球选手踢球来全胜，这些都不是建立健康自尊的好方法。

At the same time, it's a rare person who isn't sometimes – or often – plagued with painful self-doubt. When you're feeling lousy about yourself, what can you do to feel better?

同样，人总会时不时或经常地进行痛苦的自我怀疑。当你觉得自己差劲，有什么方法能让自己感觉好点?

Here's the secret. To build your self-respect…do something worthy3 of your respect. To like yourself better…do something that makes you likable. It's tempting4 to think that support and encouragement from other people will reassure5 you, but A) often that doesn't work and B) often you can't winkle other people into giving you a pep talk.

下面是秘密。要建立自尊，就去做值得你尊敬的事情。要更喜欢自己，就去做让自己更受人喜欢的事情。人们总容易认为，别人的鼓励和支持能让自己心里踏实，可是A)这往往不奏效，B)你很难诱使别人给你一段鼓励的话语。

Here are some strategies to try:

去尝试一下以下的策略:

1. Do a good deed. This is as selfish as it is selfless; you'll benefit as much as the person you're helping6. I had a friend who went through a period of tremendous rejection7: she was fired from her job, she didn't get into the graduate program to which she'd applied8, and her boyfriend broke up with her. Everything worked out fine in the end, and I asked her how she got through such a tough time. She said, "I was practically addicted9 to doing good deeds for other people. It was the only way I could make myself feel like I wasn't a total loser." Along the same lines…

做件好事。即算无私，也算有私;你给予多少，也会收获多少。会和被帮助的人获得一样多的受益。我有一个朋友遭遇了一系列严重失败：她被解雇了;她申请读研失败;她的男友甩了她。可她都挺了过来。我问她是如何渡过这么困难的时期，她说：“我迷上了给别人做好事。这是唯一的方法让我感到自己不是彻底失败者。” 同理...

2. Make small gestures of good citizenship10. Bring your old magazines to the gym so other people can read them. Offer directions to someone who looks lost. Sign up to be an organ donor11. My current favorite: picking up trash that other people have left on the subway.

好公民的细微姿态。把你的旧杂志送去健身房，让别人也能阅读。给看上去迷路的人指路。报名器官捐献。现在我最喜欢的：捡起别人在地铁仍下的垃圾。

3. Keep a resolution. Not only will you benefit from exercising or cleaning out your garage, you'll also get a boost from the mere12 fact that you made a commitment and stuck to it.

遵循决意。锻炼或打扫车库让你受益，而制定并坚持决意，这本身也能提升快乐感。

4. Become an expert. There's great satisfaction in mastery. Pick a subject that interests you, and dig in deep: the American Revolution, Photoshop, knife techniques. This can be hard, because learning something new can also make you feel frustrated13 and stupid, but if you push through, you'll give yourself a huge boost. Be sure to pick something that honestly engages you: become an expert on The Sopranos, if that sounds enticing14, but don't decide to learn about wine just because you think other people will be impressed. You're much less likely to stick with it, so you won't benefit as much.

成为专家。成为“大师”有很大满足感。选择一个另你感兴趣的话题，深入挖掘：美国革命、Photoshop、刀法。这往往很难，因为学习新东西会让你感觉到沮丧和笨拙，但是如果你努一把力，就会给自己一个巨大的快乐提升。一定要选择一个真正入迷的东西：如果你喜欢女高音，那么就成为这方面专家，但是不要为了讨好别人而学习红酒。你能坚持的可能性小，给你带来的好处也少。

5. Boost your energy. Studies show that when you're feeling energetic, you're much more likely to feel good about yourself. Most important: get enough sleep. If you need an emergency energy fix, take a quick ten-minute walk (outside, if possible, where sunlight will also stimulate15 your brain), listen to some great music, or talk to a friend.

养精蓄锐。研究显示，当你精力充沛时，更可能自我感觉良好。最重要一条：保持足够睡眠。如果你需要为精力紧急充电，快步走10分钟(可能的话出去走，阳光会刺激你的头脑)，听好听的音乐，或和朋友聊天。

6. Challenge yourself physically16. This strategy doesn't work for me, but I know that many people feel great after para-sailing, white-water rafting, bungee-jumping, or roller-coaster-riding. For the less daring, a great run, bike ride, or spinning class can do the trick.

挑战身体。这个策略对我没用，但是我知道很多人在进行了帆伞运动、激流划艇、蹦极过山车后感觉很好。对于胆小一些的，跑步、骑自行车或动感单车课程都行。