有了孩子后,怎样才能继续社交呢

Sleep deprived and exhausted, and often with a pounding headache. It's a post-night-out feeling which is eerily similar to how you feel as new parent. But while parents' feelings are often brought on by trying to keep a child happy, often they end up neglecting their own needs.

缺觉、筋疲力尽、经常剧烈头痛？这种前一晚出去high玩之后的感觉与初为人父/母的感觉异常相似。虽然父母的感受通常都是为了让孩子开心，但他们却往往忽略了自己的需求。

A impromptu pub visit is off the table, as are those all-night parties which perhaps populated your younger social life. But there is a way to continue having a life, apparently. Hannah Saunders used to be deputy director of policing at the Home Office, until she quit the rat race and set up her innovative business organising "family raves".

更别提临时去酒吧、参加通宵聚会了（这也许是你年轻时代的社交生活）。但显然，继续这种生活也不是没有办法。汉娜·桑德斯曾担任内政部警务处副处长，不久前她退出了这种激烈竞争，开始着手组织"家庭狂欢"这一创新业务。

She said: "I am a raver of many decades but once you have children your life changes and you need to be more creative." Hannah runs events under her company name Big Fish Little Fish, and they now happen around the world as far afield as Australia.

她说："几十年来，我一直都是社交达人，但一旦生了孩子，你的生活就会发生变化，你需要更有创造力。"汉娜以其公司名"大鱼小鱼"举行活动，现在她们的活动遍布世界各地，远至澳大利亚。

Her events take place over a couple hours in the afternoon and have attracted some big name DJs. She joined the Daily Mirror First Time Dads podcast to talk about holding on to your social life while still being a great parent.

她在下午举办时长数小时的活动，吸引了一些大牌DJ。她参加了《每日镜报》的"初为人父"（First Time Dads）播客，谈论既要做一名合格的父母，也要坚持自己的社交生活。

She said: "Of course you can't go out exactly as you did but there are ways to plan it. It's harder to organise but you have to grab your moments." She said it's important to share load as much as possible with your partner.

她说："当然，你不能像以前那样想出门就出门，但你可以想想办法。组织起来很难，但你必须抓住时机。"她表示，尽可能多的让另一半分担是很重要的。

Hannah said: "It's all in the planning. I went to a gig when my oldest daughter was three weeks old." I got exact stage times, I fed her until she was like a balloon.

汉娜说道："关键就是计划。大女儿出生三周时，我去看了一场演出。"我知道演出的确切时间，我把她喂的像个气球。

"As soon as she was sound asleep I left her with a friend and went out for 90minutes had a glass of wine and then went home in time for the next feed." She said that it is also important show your children what socialising is.

"她一睡着，我就让朋友帮忙照看她，自己出去呆了90分钟、喝了杯酒，在她需要喝奶前及时回到了家中。"她说让孩子知道什么是社交也很重要。

She said: "We get together with our friends and push all the kids together and we as parents can have a chat."

她说："我们与朋友聚在一起，让孩子们自己玩，我们家长就在一旁聊天。"