偷情者讲述自己是如何出轨的
For a lot of us, the idea of being unfaithful to someone is unforgivable. But for those who have actually experienced cheating, or been cheated on, it's not always so black and white.
对很多人来说，出轨都是不可原谅的。但对那些真正经历过出轨或被出轨的人来说，事情并不总是非黑即白。In a recent Reddit post, users explained why they cheated and how it turned out. Surprisingly not all of them end badly. Many of the people who posted cheated to escape a relationship that had gone bad.
最近在Reddit的一篇文章上，用户们解释了他们出轨的原因，以及最终的结果。出人意料的是，结果并没有那么糟。很多人发文称，他们出轨是为了逃避已经变质的感情。I married too young and against my better judgement. My husband was a controlling and sexually repressed man who did not respect me and I did no respect him.
我结婚太早，没有做出明智的判断。我的丈夫控制力强，性生活十分压抑，他不尊重我，我也不尊重他。
I found out that my husband was on dating sites and talking to women online attempting to solicit dates. He was actively seeking to cheat and the only thing stopping him from taking it to a physical realm was the fact that none of the women were interested in him.
我发现我的老公注册了约会网站，和一些美女聊骚，诱惑她们约炮。他特别积极地想要出轨，但阻止他身体出轨的唯一原因却是：没有人对他感兴趣。
We worked on our marriage over the years to try to resolve his online cheating, but he'd always start up again. Eventually I got so emotionally worn out by it that I just didn't have it in me to care much anymore.
我们好多年来都在努力经营我们的婚姻，试图解决他在线出轨的事情，但他却总是一而再再而三的出轨。最终，我累了，我一点都不想关心了。I met a man at work who I was instantly attracted to on a mental and a physical level--something I'd never had with my husband. We started out with harmless conversations and became work friends. We then found excuses to text each other when not at work. We'd grab lunch together here and first with groups and then with just the two of us. I couldn't wait to go to work every day and see him. I thought about him all the time. I knew I was heading toward dangerous ground but I didn't want to stop.
上班时，我遇到了一个人，我立马被他吸引，无论是精神上还是身体上都被吸引了--我从未对自己的老公有过这种感觉。我们开始聊一些无关痛痒的话题，成了工作伙伴。然后不工作的时候，我们就各种找理由互发短信。我们会到处一起吃午饭，刚开始的时候是大家一起吃，后来就只剩我俩了。每天我都迫不及待的去上班，想要见到他。我无时无刻不在想他，我知道这样很危险，但我真的不想停下这一切。We started flirting and I began to sneak away from home to meet up with him for hikes, dinner, you name it. I met up with him for hours at a time on evenings and weekends, and my husband never really noticed because his attention was always occupied with his friends or his online chats with women.
我们开始暧昧，我开始从家里面溜出来和他一起远足、吃饭等等。每天晚上、每个周末我和他一呆就是好几个小时，而丈夫却一点都没察觉到，因为他总是和朋友在一起，或是和网上的美女聊天。
