生活智慧:如何得到你想要的一切

Getting what you want in your career and in life isn't as difficult as it may seem. I mean it.

在你的事业和生活中得到你想要的并不像看起来那么困难。我说真的。

Here's a sneak peak at how you can be successful in everything you do:

这里来一窥究竟如何在你所做的一切事情上获得成功：

Listen First and Never Stop Listening

Listening is the single-Most important skill in professional and personal relationships. Most people have their own agenda and are too busy talking (or waiting to talk) to listen to you. If you, unlike most people, can truly listen with empathy, then people will like you--and eventually help you get what you want.

首先要倾听，永远不要停止倾听

在职业和个人关系上倾听是唯一最重要的技能。大多数人都有自己的行程，忙着谈话(或等待说话)以至于不能倾听你。如果你，不像大多数人一样，而是可以感同身受地真正倾听，那么人们就会喜欢你，最终帮助你得到你想要的。

Help Others

When you want something from someone, instead of asking for it, help that person get what he or she wants. If you don't know what he or she wants, then simply ask, "How can I help you?" Since so many people are out to only help themselves, when you genuinely seek to help others succeed in their goals and dreams, you'll stand out. And those people you genuinely help will in turn fight to help you succeed and give you everything you want. Help others first, without expecting anything--and the returns will be enormous.

帮助别人

当你想从别人那里得到什么东西，而非要求，帮助那个人得到他或她想要的。如果你不知道他或她想要的，然后简单地问，“我怎样才能帮助你？”既然如此多的人只会去帮助他们自己，当你真正寻求帮助别人成功实现他们的目标和梦想时，你就会脱颖而出。那些你真正帮助的人将反过来努力帮助你成功，给你想要的一切。先帮助别人，不期待任何东西，回报将是巨大的。

Be Yourself: Authentic, Transparent, and Vulnerable

authenticity, transparency, and vulnerability all breed trust. And when people trust you, they'll do anything for you. Open up to people, and take a chance, and you'll be rewarded.

做你自己：真实、透明以及脆弱

真实、透明和脆弱都能滋生信任。当人们信任你，他们会为你做任何事。向他人敞开心胸，并抓住机会，你会有收获。

Inject Passion Into Every Interaction

Passion is contagious, but so is lack of passion. If you're not passionate about what you're talking about, why should someone else care? If you want something, you must be more excited and dedicated to it than anyone else.

为每一次互动注入激情

激情是会传染的，但缺乏激情也是一样。如果你对你谈论的东西缺乏激情，别人为什么要在乎呢？如果你想要什么，你必须更加兴奋，比任何人都要奉献更多。

Surprise and Delight Others

When you surprise and delight others, not only do you make them happy--you remind them that you're the type of person who might surprise and delight them soon again. Some classic examples: bringing home flowers to your wife for "no reason"; telling a customer his order will arrive next week but then overnighting it.

让他人惊喜和愉悦

当你使他人惊喜和愉悦时，你不仅让他们快乐——你提醒他们你是那种可能很快又会给他们带来惊喜和快乐的人。一些经典的例子：“没有理由”地将一束鲜花带回家给你妻子，告诉客户他的订单下周到然后连夜发过去。

Use The Four Most Important Words in Business and Life

Say "I'm sorry" when you make a mistake and "thank you" as much as you can. These words are so simple, yet so often people overlook the importance of saying them. Just say "I'm sorry" and let another person forgive you, so you can move on, and eventually get what you want. Conversely, sincere gratitude to people is a powerful emotion to convey, and opens up many doors.

在生意和生活中使用最重要的四个单词

当你犯错误时说“对不起”，尽可能多地说“谢谢你”。这些话是如此简单，然而人们总是忽视说它们的重要性。只要说“对不起”，让另一个人原谅你，那么你就可以继续前进，并最终得到你想要的。相反地，真诚地感谢他人是一种强大的情感传达，能打开很多扇门。