80后30而立必备4要素

“Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” - John Lennon
　　"现实总是留给想象极大的空间"-----约翰 列侬

How many times have we told ourselves in complete earnestness, “I'm going to be more organized and productive from now on.”？ Or that the diet starts tomorrow? Or that we're going to make a real effort to exercise now?
多少次我们曾坚定地对自己说"从现在开始我要活得更有规划，更有成就"?从明天起开始减肥？或者开始努力锻炼身体？

Only to have that enthusiasm fizzle away, and all our best intentions come to nothing?
那种热情是否很快就消失了，而我们的目标也完全没有实现呢？

It's the most common thing in the world （besides bacteria） — the honest and fervent desire for self-improvement, followed by inaction or giving in to temptations, followed by guilt or giving up. Bridget Jones captured it best, writing her constant resolutions into her diary. “Will definitely go to the gym this afternoon.” Only to be followed by a binge of pastries followed by drinking and smoking.
世界上最常见的事莫过于，当初诚挚而热烈地追求自我发展目标，而后却由于懒怠和经不住诱惑而放弃，最终内疚不已。布丽琪特对此体会最深，她在日记中经常写到自己的决定“今天下午一定要去体育馆”，然而最终却以狂欢派对，喝酒，抽烟取而代之。

We're all Bridget Jones. It happens to the best of us. It's inertia at work, mixed with a bit of laziness as well as the very human trait of giving in to desires despite all the good intentions in the world.
我们都是布丽琪特。尽管我们有很多美好的目标，但由于在工作中的惯性，懒惰，和对诱惑的妥协，这类事情常常发生在我们身上。

1. Get moving, a bit at a time. Inertia is beat only by movement. Once you get going, momentum builds up and inertia is no longer a factor. So the key is to get started, and you do that not by trying to go from 0 to 60 in 5 seconds, but by trying to go from 0 to 5mph in a day or two. That's doable. It's all about baby steps. Once you get going, you're golden.
采取行动，每次进步一点。唯有行动可以击败惯性。一旦你行动起来，动力就会源源而来，惯性也不再成为问题了。所以关键在于着手开始干，这并不是说你在五分钟内重复60次，而是说要努力在一两天内重复5次。这只是第一步，一旦你开始行动，你就成功了一半。

2. Be accountable. Laziness, the second culprit, is beat by a bit of public pressure. We all get lazy from time to time （or, to be more honest, all the time）, and there's nothing wrong with that. But to beat laziness, we must apply a bit of pressure, in the form of accountability. There's nothing wrong with a little pressure, as long is it's not overdone. Pressure is a motivating thing, especially when it's positive. Positive pressure includes encouragement from family or friends, an online forum, a help group in your neighborhood, or the readers of your blog.
责任心。 懒惰是防碍我们实现目标的第二罪犯，社会压力可以击败它。我们总是时不时地变得懒惰（更确切地说，或者总是很懒惰），这也没什么错误的。但为了克服懒惰，我们必须借助因责任感而产生的压力。有适度的压力是很好的，只要没有过火就行。压力可以激励人，特别是积极向上的压力。积极的压力包括来自于家庭，朋友，网络论坛的鼓励，邻里之间和博客读者的帮助。

3. Ignore failures — giving in to temptation is OK. We will always give in to temptation. Plan for it, accept it, move on. There's no need to beat yourself up.
忽视失败------承认诱惑。我们常常经不住诱惑，那么请计划一下，并接受它，然后继续努力。没有必要让自己痛苦。

4. Motivate yourself. Most importantly, you want to really want it. It's not enough to feel pressure to do something — you have to really desire it. I mean, really desire it, not just think it's something you should do, or that you'll be a better person for doing it. If pressure gives you the push toward your goal, motivation gives you the pull.
自我激励-----最重要的是你确实想这样做。仅仅有压力是不够的，你必须真正需要它，我是指真正地渴望，而不是简单地认为你该这样做，或者这样做你会更好。如果说压力给了你追求目标的推力，那么动机则赐予你拉力。