心灵鸡汤:初次约会必须注意的11个细节(2)

7. Pick up your own tab

为自己那一份买单

It’s so much less complicated than negotiating any other payment arrangement with someone you barely know. And because it’s fair, neither of you will feel owed or owing。

比起和你几乎不了解的人商量如何结账，各付各的就没那么复杂了。因为这是公平的，所以你们双方不会觉得谁欠谁。

8. No humblebragging

不要过分谦虚

Yes, it’s impressive that you compete in triathlons/run your own business/know that DJ. It’s so impressive that pretending to be humble or embarrassed when you’re actually pretty damn proud is just silly. Brag openly and briefly, as in, “Yeah, I do triathlons. I won the Example Triathlon last year,” then get back to whatever you were talking about before that。

是的，你参加三项全能运动/有自己的生意/认为那个DJ，这些会令人对你刮目相看。这些如此令人刮目相看，对那些你其实引以为傲的事情假装谦卑或难为情，这是很蠢的做法。大方而且简要地夸耀自己，比如说“是的，我参加了三项全能运动。我去年获得了铁人三项参与奖。”然后回到你之前谈论的话题上。

9. Eat mint

吃点薄荷糖

Do this not just to make sure your breath smells OK, but also because it perks you up. Mint helps you feel fresh, alert and ready for conversation. Plus, eating something minty prevents your mouth getting too dry if you’re nervous。

这样做不只是保证口气清新，而且它还能让你振奋。薄荷让你感觉清新，为谈话做好准备。此外，吃些带薄荷味的东西，当你紧张时能避免嘴唇发干。

10. Be prepared

做好准备

No matter who you are, there’s always a possibility that your first date could lead to sex, perhaps sooner than you thought. Be prepared with protection against pregnancy and STIs, of course, but it’s also important to prepare for the hormonal rush you’ll feel if there’s strong sexual chemistry between you and your date. Those hormones affect your judgement, so don’t take any unnecessary risks like driving too fast or drinking too much alcohol。

不管你是谁，在初次约会时和对方发生性关系都是有可能的，也许来得比你想的还要早。准备好避孕措施及预防性传播感染，当然，同样重要的是在你和你的约会对象之间产生强烈的性吸引力时，做好各种准备。这些激素会影响你的判断力，所以不要冒任何风险，比如开快车，或是酗酒。

11. Smile!

微笑

A genuine smile makes everyone look more attractive, without exception, so give your date a big smile when you see them. Because smiling triggers your nervous system to release serotonin, it improves your mood at the same time to help you enjoy the date。

无一例外，真诚的微笑让人看起来更有吸引力，所以去约会时，看到他们就给他们一个灿烂的微笑。因为微笑会触发神经系统释放血清素，它在改善情绪的同时帮助你享受约会的快乐。

Don’t worry about minor mishaps on a first date. The less you fret about it, the more relaxed and confident you’ll feel. Keep these first date tips in mind to boost your date from average to awesome, and remember: this isn’t a job interview. It’s supposed to be fun!

不要担心初次约会时发生的小意外。担忧越少，你就越轻松、越自信。记住这些初次约会时的小建议，把你的约会从平庸提升到美妙，记住：这不是求职面试，初次约会就应该很好玩才对！