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In most English-Speaking countries, it is normal and necessary to make "small talk" in certain situations. Small talk is a casual form of conversation that "breaks the ice" or fills an awkward silence between people. Even though you may feel shy using your second language, it is sometimes consideRed rude to say nothing. Just as there are certain times when small talk is appropriate, there are also certain topics that people often discuss during these moments.
在大多数英语国家，在某些情况下进行“闲聊”是正常的，也是必要的。闲聊是一种随意的谈话形式，可以“打破僵局”或填补人与人之间尴尬的沉默。即使你在使用第二语言时感到害羞，但有时什么也不说被认为是粗鲁的。就像有些时候闲聊是合适的一样，也有一些话题是人们在这些时候经常讨论的。
Read through the Who, What, Where, When, Why page to gain a better understanding of small talk. The hardest part about making small talk is knowing how to start a conversation. Review the conversation starters and practise them with a friend. Finally, take the time to see how much you have learned about small talk by taking the Small Talk Quiz. And remember, in an English-speaking environment it is often better to make a few mistakes than to say nothing at all!
通过阅读Who，What，Where，Why页面来更好地理解闲聊。闲聊最难的部分是知道如何开始交谈。复习对话开始语并与朋友一起练习。最后，花点时间看看你通过参加小测验学到了多少关于小谈话的知识。记住，在一个讲英语的环境中，犯一些错误总比什么都不说要好！
WHO makes small talk?
谁会闲聊？
People with many different relationships use small talk. The most common type of people to use small talk are those who do not know each other at all. Though we often teach children not to talk to strangers, adults are expected to say at least a few words in certain situations (see where). It is also common for people who are only acquaintances, often called a "friend of a friend", to use small talk. Other people who have short casual conversations are office employees who may not be good friends but work in the same department. Customer service representatives, waitresses, hairdressers and receptionists often make small talk with customers. If you happen to be outside when the mailman comes to your door you might make small talk with him too.
有很多不同关系的人都会闲聊。最常见的闲聊人群是那些根本不认识的人。虽然我们经常教孩子们不要和陌生人说话，但在某些情况下，大人至少要说几句话（看在哪里）。只是熟人的人（通常被称为“朋友的朋友”）用闲聊也是很常见的。其他人有短暂的随意交谈是办公室员工谁可能不是好朋友，但在同一个部门工作。客服代表、服务员、美发师和接待员经常与顾客闲聊。如果邮递员来到你家门口时你正好在外面，你也可以和他聊聊天。
WHAT do people make small talk about?
人们经常闲聊什么？
There are certain "safe" topics that people usually make small talk about. The weather is probably the number one thing that people who do not know each other well discuss. Sometimes even friends and family members discuss the weather when they meet or start a conversation. Another topic that is generally safe is current events. As long as you are not discussing a controversial issue, such as a recent law concerning equal rights, it is usually safe to discuss the news. Sports news is a very common topic, especially if a local team or player is in a tournament or play-off or doing extremely well or badly. Entertainment news, such as a celebrity who is in town, is another good topic. If there is something that you and the other speaker has in common, that may also be acceptable to talk about. For example, if the bus is extremely full and there are no seats available you might talk about reasons why. Similarly, people in an office might casually discuss the new paint or furniture. There are also some subjects that are not considered acceptable when making small talk. Discussing personal information such as salaries or a recent divorce is not done between people who do not know each other well.
有些“安全”的话题人们通常会闲聊。天气可能是彼此不太了解的人讨论的首要问题。有时甚至朋友和家人在见面或开始交谈时也会讨论天气。另一个通常安全的话题是时事。只要你不是在讨论一个有争议的问题，比如最近关于平等权利的法律，讨论新闻通常是安全的。体育新闻是一个非常常见的话题，特别是当一个当地的球队或球员在一个锦标赛或附加赛或做得非常好或不好。娱乐新闻是另一个好话题，比如一个名人在城里。如果你和另一位演讲者有共同点，那也是可以接受的。例如，如果公共汽车非常满，没有座位，你可以谈谈原因。同样，办公室里的人可能会随意讨论新的油漆或家具。还有一些话题在闲聊时被认为是不可接受的。讨论个人信息，如工资或最近的离婚是不做之间的人谁不了解对方。
Compliments on clothing or hair are acceptable; however, you should never say something (good or bad) about a person's body. Negative comments about another person not involved in the conversation are also not acceptable: when you do not know a person well you cannot be sure who their friends are. You do not talk about private issues either, because you do not know if you can trust the other person with your secrets or personal information. Also, it is not safe to discuss subjects that society deems controversial such as religion or politics. Lastly, it is not wise to continue talking about an issue that the other person does not seem comfortable with or interested in.
对衣服或头发的赞美是可以接受的；但是，你不应该对一个人的身体说什么（好的或坏的）。对另一个没有参与谈话的人的负面评论也是不可接受的：当你不了解一个人时，你就不能确定他们的朋友是谁。你也不谈论私人问题，因为你不知道你是否可以信任对方你的秘密或个人信息。此外，讨论社会认为有争议的话题，如宗教或政治，也是不安全的。最后，继续谈论另一个人似乎不喜欢或不感兴趣的问题是不明智的。
WHERE do people make small talk?
人们会在哪里闲聊？
People make small talk just about anywhere, but there are certain places where it is very common. Most often, small talk occurs in places where people are waiting for something. For example, you might chat with another person who is waiting for the bus to arrive, or to the person beside you waiting to get on an aeroplane. People also make small talk in a doctor's or dentist's waiting room, or in queues at the grocery store. At the office, people make small talk in elevators or lunchrooms and even in restrooms, especially if there is a line-up. Some social events (such as a party) require small talk among guests who do not know each other very well. For example, you might talk to someone you do not know at the punch bowl, or at the poolside. It is called "mingling" when people walk around in a social setting and talk to a variety of people.
人们在任何地方闲聊，但在某些地方却很常见。大多数情况下，闲聊发生在人们等待某事的地方。例如，你可能会和另一个正在等公共汽车的人聊天，或者和你旁边的那个正在等飞机的人聊天。人们也在医生或牙医的候诊室或杂货店排队时闲聊。在办公室，人们在电梯或午餐室甚至洗手间里闲聊，尤其是排队的时候。有些社交活动（如聚会）需要不太熟悉的客人之间进行闲聊。例如，你可能会和一个你不认识的人在拳击场或泳池边交谈。当人们在社交场合走动，与各种各样的人交谈时，这被称为“交融”。
WHEN do people make small talk?
人们什么时候会闲聊？
The most common time for small talk to occur is the first time you see or meet someone on a given day. For example, if you see a co-worker in the lounge you might say hello and discuss the sports or weather. However, the next time you see each other you might just smile and say nothing. If there is very little noise, that might be an indication that it is the right time to initiate a casual conversation. You should only spark up a conversation after someone smiles and acknowledges you. Do not interrupt two people in order to discuss something unimportant such as the weather. If someone is reading a book or writing a letter at the bus stop it is not appropriate to initiate a conversation either. Another good time to make small talk is during a break in a meeting or presentation when there is nothing important going on. Finally, it is important to recognize the cue when the other person wants the conversation to stop.
闲聊最常见的时间是你在某一天第一次见到某人。例如，如果你在休息室看到一个同事，你可以打个招呼，讨论一下运动或天气。然而，下次见面时，你可能只是微笑着什么也不说。如果噪音很小，这可能表明现在是开始一次非正式谈话的适当时机。只有在有人微笑着向你致意后，你才应该引发一场对话。不要为了讨论天气等不重要的事情而打断两个人。如果有人在公共汽车站看书或写信，也不适合发起谈话。另一个闲聊的好时机是在没有重要事情发生的会议或演讲的休息时间。最后，当对方希望谈话停止时，识别提示是很重要的。
WHY do people make small talk?
人们为什么会闲聊？
There are a few different reasons why people use small talk. The first, and most obvious, is to break an uncomfortable silence. Another reason, however, is simply to fill time. That is why it is so common to make small talk when you are waiting for something. Some people make small talk in order to be polite. You may not feel like chatting with anyone at a party, but it is rude to just sit in a corner by yourself. After someone introduces you to another person, you do not know anything about them, so in order to show a polite interest in getting to know them better, you have to start with some small talk.
人们使用闲聊有几个不同的原因。首先，也是最明显的，是打破令人不安的沉默。另一个原因，不过，只是为了填补时间。这就是为什么当你在等什么的时候闲聊是如此普遍的原因。有些人为了礼貌而闲聊。在聚会上你可能不想和任何人聊天，但独自坐在角落里是不礼貌的。有人把你介绍给另一个人之后，你对他们一无所知，所以为了表现出礼貌的兴趣，更好地了解他们，你必须从一些闲聊开始。
Talking about the weather
谈论关于天气
Beautiful day, isn't it? /Can you believe all of this rain we've been having? /It looks like it's going to snow. /It sure would be nice to be in Hawaii right about now. /I hear they're calling for thunderstorms all weekend. /We couldn't ask for a nicer day, could we? /How about this weather? /Did you order this sunshine?
天气真好，不是吗？/你能相信我们下了这么多雨吗？/看来要下雪了。/现在在夏威夷真是太好了。/我听说整个周末都有雷雨。/这一天实在是太美好了，是吗？/这种天气怎么样？/你点了这个阳光吗？
Talking about current events
讨论当下实时
Did you catch the news today? /Did you hear about that fire on Fourth St? /What do you think about this transit strike? /I read in the paper today that the Sears Mall is closing. /I heard on the radio today that they are finally going to start building the new bridge. /How about those Reds? Do you think they're going to win tonight?
你今天听到新闻了吗？/你听说四街那场火灾了吗？/你觉得这次运输罢工怎么样？/我今天在报纸上看到西尔斯商场要关门了。/我今天从收音机里听到他们终于要开始建新桥了。/那些红色怎么样？你认为他们今晚会赢吗？
At the office
在办公室
Looking forward to the weekend? /Have you worked here long? /I can't believe how busy/quiet we are today, can you? /Has it been a long week? /You look like you could use a cup of coffee. /What do you think of the new computers?
期待周末吗？/你在这里工作很久了吗？/我真不敢相信我们今天有多忙/多安静，你说呢？/这是漫长的一周吗？/你看起来需要一杯咖啡。/你觉得这些新电脑怎么样？
At a social event
在社交活动中
So, how do you know Justin? /Have you tried the cabbage rolls that Sandy made? /Are you enjoying yourself? /It looks like you could use another drink. /Pretty nice place, huh? /I love your dress. Can I ask where you got it?
你怎么认识贾斯汀的？/你尝过桑迪做的卷心菜卷吗？/你玩得开心吗？/看来你需要再喝一杯。/不错的地方，是吧？/我喜欢你的衣服。我能问一下你在哪儿买的吗？
Out for a walk
散步时
How old's your baby? /What's your puppy's name? /The tulips are sure beautiful at this time of year, aren't they. /How do you like the new park? /Nice day to be outside, isn't it?
你的孩子多大了？/你的小狗叫什么名字？/每年这个时候郁金香一定很美，不是吗。/你觉得新公园怎么样？/外面天气真好，不是吗？
Waiting somewhere
在某处等待时
I didn't think it would be so busy today. /You look like you've got your hands full (with children or goods). /The bus must be running late today. /It looks like we are going to be here a while, huh? /I'll have to remember not to come here on Mondays. /How long have you been waiting?
我没想到今天会这么忙。/你看起来忙得不可开交（带着孩子或货物）。/今天公共汽车肯定要晚点了。/看来我们要在这儿待一会儿了，是吗？/我得记住星期一不要来这儿。/你等了多久了？
1.Woman: We could ask for a better day, could we? /Correction: We couldn't ask for a better day, could we?
女人：我们可以要求更好的一天，是吗？/更正：没有比这更好的一天了，不是吗？
2.Woman: Me too. The cherry blossoms are beautiful, you think? /Correction: Me too. The cherry blossoms are beautiful, aren't they?
女人：我也是。你觉得樱花很美吗？/更正：我也是。樱花很美，不是吗？
3.Man: They sure are. But I heard he is calling for rain all weekend. /Correction: They sure are. But I heard they are calling for rain all weekend.
男人：他们当然是。但我听说他整个周末都在呼吁下雨。/更正：他们当然是。但我听说他们整个周末都要下雨。
4.Woman: Really? Oh well. I have to work all weekend anyway. I'm a doctor. /Correction: During small talk with a stranger, it is not common to discuss personal information relating to work.
女人：真的吗？哦，好吧。反正我整个周末都得工作。我是医生。/更正：在与陌生人闲聊时，讨论与工作有关的个人信息并不常见。
5.Man: Wow. I'm sure you make good money with that diamond watch you have on. /Correction: It is not acceptable to discuss salaries while making small talk.
男人：哇。我相信你戴着那只钻石表赚了不少钱。/更正：闲聊时讨论工资是不能接受的。
6.Woman: Ah, this bus seems to be running late. How long of a wait is it already? /Correction: Ah, this bus seems to be running late. How long have you been waiting?
女：啊，这辆车好像要晚点了。已经等了多久了？/更正：啊，这辆公共汽车好像要晚点了。你等了多久了？
7.Woman: Where are you heading today? /Correction: Too personal.
女：你今天要去哪里？/更正：过于个人化。
8.Woman: Oh, what a coincidence. So am I! Who are you voting for? /Correction: Politics is not a "safe" subject to discuss.
女人：哦，真是巧合。我也是！你投谁的票？/更正：政治不是一个“安全”的话题。
9.Man: I love reading. Right now I'm reading a Stephen King book. Do you like Stephen King? /Correction: The woman suggested that she wanted to end the conversation. The man did not take the hint.
男：我喜欢读书。现在我在读斯蒂芬·金的书。你喜欢斯蒂芬金吗？/更正：这位女士建议她结束谈话。那人没有接受暗示。
10.Man: Say, did you catch the news today? /Correction: Thanks. You too. This is not an appropriate time to start a new conversation. The bus's arrival indicates that it is time to stop talking.
男：喂，你今天看到新闻了吗？/更正：谢谢。你也是。现在不是开始新对话的合适时机。公共汽车的到达表明是时候停止讲话了。
1.Man: Hi. I haven't seen you around here before. Have you been working long? /Correction: I haven't seen you around here before. Have you worked here long?
男：嗨。我以前在这附近没见过你。你工作很久了吗？/更正：我以前在这附近没见过你。你在这里工作很久了吗？
2.Man: Oh, you must make more money than I do then. I'm in Sales. /Correction: Oh, that must be why I haven't seen you around. I'm in Sales. (It is inappropriate to discuss how much people make in an office during small talk.)
男人：哦，那你一定比我赚得多。我是做销售的。/更正：哦，那一定是为什么我没在附近见过你。我是做销售的。（闲聊时讨论人们在办公室赚多少钱是不合适的。）
3.Man: It's okay. Hey, you look like you could really have a coffee. /Correction: It's okay. Hey, you look like you could really use a coffee.
3.男人：没关系。嘿，你看起来真的可以喝杯咖啡了。/更正：没关系。嘿，你看起来真的需要一杯咖啡。
4.Man: Tell me about it! At least it's supposing to be a nice weekend. /Correction: Tell me about it! At least it's supposed to be a nice weekend.
男人：告诉我吧！至少这是一个美好的周末。/更正：告诉我！至少应该是个美好的周末。
5.Woman: Yes, I've listened that they are calling for blue skies. /Correction: Yes, I've heard that they are calling for blue skies.
女：是的，我听说过他们在呼唤蓝天。/更正：是的，我听说他们要蓝天。
6.Man: The Chiefs! Do you think they're going to make it to the finals this year? /Correction: The man should not continue with this subject because the woman is obviously not interested in it.
6.酋长们！你认为他们今年能进决赛吗？/纠正：男人不应该继续这个话题，因为女人显然对此不感兴趣。
7.Man: Speaking of desks, what do you think of the new office furniture? /Correction: The man did not take the cue that the woman wants to end the conversation.
男士：说到桌子，你觉得新的办公家具怎么样？/更正：男人没有暗示女人想结束谈话。
8.Woman: It's nice, but I would rather get paid for my overtime hours than have new furniture. /Correction: Giving your opinion about a controversial subject is not appropriate when making small talk with someone you don't know or trust.
8.女士：不错，但我宁愿加班得到报酬也不愿买新家具。/纠正：当和你不认识或不信任的人闲聊时，就一个有争议的话题发表你的观点是不合适的。
9.Man: Oh. Well, I think I'll be heading home early today. It might be snow. /Correction: Oh. Well, I think I'll be heading home early today. It looks like it might snow.
男人：哦。嗯，我想我今天会早点回家。可能下雪了。/更正：哦。嗯，我想我今天会早点回家。好像要下雪了。
10.Man: Me neither! My divorce will finally come through by then! /Correction: Private information about one's personal life is not acceptable.
男人：我也是！到那时我的离婚就要结束了！/更正：关于个人生活的私人信息是不可接受的。
1.Woman 1: (Smiles. No response.) /Correction: It is rude not to say anything or answer someone, even if you are shy or don't know the person.
1.女人1：（微笑。没有回应。）/纠正：不说任何话或不回答任何人都是不礼貌的，即使你很害羞或不认识这个人。
2.Man: Don't. It's terrible. /Correction: Keep negative comments out of your small talk. You don't know if the person you are talking about is a close friend of the person you are talking to.
男人：别这样。太可怕了。/纠正：不要在闲聊中发表负面评论。你不知道你正在谈论的人是否是你谈话对象的密友。
3.Man: So, how are you knowing Rick? /Correction: So, how do you know Rick?
男人：那么，你是怎么认识瑞克的？/更正：那么，你是怎么认识瑞克的？
4.Man: Nursing. Hmm. I heard on the radio today that all of you nurses are on strike. Are they not paying you enough? /Correction: During small talk it is not appropriate to discuss salaries.
男：护理。嗯。我今天从广播里听说你们所有的护士都在罢工。他们付给你的钱不够吗？/更正：闲聊时不宜讨论工资问题。
5.Man: No, I need to lose some weight before I put on a bathing suit. But you have a great figure. /Correction: Even though this is a compliment, it may make someone feel uncomfortable. Complimenting clothing is acceptable for small talk, but bodies are not a "safe" topic.
男：不，我需要在穿泳衣之前先减肥。但你身材很好。/纠正：即使这是一种恭维，也可能会让人感到不舒服。夸奖服装是可以接受的闲聊，但身体不是一个“安全”的话题。
6.Woman 2: Uh, thanks. Well, I better go and jingle. There are a few people I haven't said hello to yet. /Correction: Uh, thanks. Well, I better go and mingle. There are a few people I haven't said hello to yet.
女2：呃，谢谢。好吧，我最好去唱叮当声。有几个人我还没跟他们打招呼。/更正：呃，谢谢。好吧，我最好去混一混。有几个人我还没跟他们打招呼。
7.Man: Wait! Did you hear that the Pope is coming to town? /Correction: The man did not take the cue that the woman wants to end the conversation. "Wait" is a very direct word that should never be used in small talk. You could say, "Oh, before you go..." or "I don't want to keep you, but..." if you have something very important to add or ask.
男人：等等！你听说教皇要进城了吗？/更正：男子没有暗示女子想结束谈话。”“等”是一个非常直接的词，不应该用在闲聊中。你可以说，“哦，在你走之前…”或者“我不想留下你，但是…”如果你有非常重要的事情要补充或要求。
8.Man: I know. But I'm not Catholic anyway. Are you? /Correction: Religion is not a "safe" subject to discuss during small talk.
我知道。但我不是天主教徒。你是吗？/更正：宗教不是闲聊时讨论的“安全”话题。
9.Woman 2: Yes, I am actually. Well, it looks the sun is finally come out. I think I'll go take that swim. /Correction: Yes, I am actually. Well, it looks like the sun is finally coming out. I think I'll go take that swim.
9.女2：是的，我确实是。看来太阳终于出来了。我想我要去游泳。/更正：是的，实际上我是。看来太阳终于出来了。我想我要去游泳。
10.Man: You'd better hurry. I hear they are asking for thunderstorms this afternoon. /Correction: You'd better hurry. I hear they are calling for thunderstorms this afternoon.
男：你最好快点。我听说他们要求今天下午有雷雨。/纠正：你最好快点。我听说今天下午有雷雨。
