女生应该和矮个子男生约会的四大理由大纲

1. Guys who are comfortable with you being taller are likely comfortable with your ambition, intellect, and talent too.

1. 愿意接受你比他高的男生也很有可能欣赏你的抱负、才智和才华。

A guy who can look at all those statistics and societal pressures and say "eff that" is less likely to be threatened by other ways that you buck gender - for example, instead of feeling weird about you getting a raise or showing off your superior sports knowledge, he’ll celebrate the fact that he’s with someone who doesn’t make herself smaller to accommodate others.

能够直视所有这些数据和社会压力，而且还能对此轻描淡写的男生不太可能被你女汉子的形象给吓跑——比如，如果你加薪了或者在他面前炫耀自己对运动有多了解，他是不会感到尴尬奇怪的，相反，他甚至会庆祝这样的事实：他的女朋友不会为了迎合别人而收起自己的光芒，很庆幸他和这样的人在一起。

2. You don’t have to make any calculations about the height of your heels.

2. 你完全不用计算自己的高跟鞋得穿多高。

While other women might feel like they have to pass on a perfectly cute pair of shoes or stick to flats so they stay shorter than their dates, you’re already taller than your man in bare feet, what’s the difference between being 2 inches taller or 5? Wear whichever heels your heart desires.

有些女生可能得放弃穿超级可爱的高跟鞋或者坚持穿平底鞋，这样她们就比自己的男朋友矮了，但你光脚就比男朋友高，所以高2英寸或5英寸又有什么区别呢？喜欢穿哪双就穿哪双吧！

3. You’ll dramatically expand your dating pool.

3. 你的约会对象目标群会扩大很多。

Finding someone who is socially, emotionally and intellectually compatible with you is hard. Yes, it makes sense to narrow your pool of potential suitors based on what you value - it’s very reasonable to look for someone with a basic understanding of grammar, for example - but too long a list of non-negotiables can blind you to people who could make you very happy. The CDC has reported that about 59 percent of U.S. guys from 20 to 29 years of age are under 5-foot-10, the average male height, while only about 20 percent of guys exceed the 6-foot mark. If you "only date" men at least 6 feet tall, you’re shooting yourself in the foot as far as selection.

找到在社交、情感和智力上都与自己合拍的人真的很难。是的，基于自己看重的价值来缩小潜在约会对象的范围是说得通的——例如，找一个有基本语法知识的人约会无可厚非——但这些长长的没有商量余地的必备品质有时会蒙蔽你，让你看不到那个能让你快乐的人。疾病预防控制中心报道：在美国，约59%20—29岁的男性都不到5英尺10英寸（约178cm），而这是男性的平均身高，而只有20%的男性身高超过6英尺（约189cm）。如果你的理想约会对象至少得189cm，那你完全就是搬起石头砸自己的脚啊！

4. Dating shorter can help you get over your own insecurities about size.

4. 和矮个子男生约会能让你不再对体型没有安全感。

When I first started dating a shorter guy, I felt insecure: not about my own height but about whether I would read as "feminine" to my partner. I even wondered with some concern whether I weighed more than he did, again, not because I felt like I needed to lose weight, but because I had absorbed the cultural script that says that women should be daintier than guys.

当我第一次和矮个子男生约会时，我十分不安：不是关于我自己的身高，而是担心约会对象是否会觉得我有女性魅力。我甚至还担心我是不是比他更重，当然，并不是因为我觉得自己要减肥了，而是因为在我的文化意识里女性应该要比男性娇小。