初次约会谁该买单

Your first date with a potential new boo is coming to a close. It went well: You two hit it off, the conversation flowed easily and you even shared a few laughs. Then the waiter places the check on the table. What do you do?

和潜在对象的初次约会就要接近尾声了。整体情况还不错：你们俩合得来，交谈也很顺畅，甚至分享了几个笑话。之后服务生将账单放到了桌上。你会怎么做？

It depends on who you ask. For better or worse, there are no hard-and-fast rules when it comes to who should pay on the first date, so things can get confusing and kind of clumsy when the bill arrives.

这得取决于你问的对象。不论好坏，在初次约会谁买单这个问题上，并不存在必须遵守的规则。所以，当账单送达之际，你们会举止困惑、变得笨拙。

In a 2017 survey conducted by Money and SurveyMonkey, 78 percent of respondents said they believe the man should pay on a first date ― but that only applies to heterosexual pairs. A 2016 survey found that 62 percent of LGBTQ singles believe the person who initiated the date should pay.

Money和SurveyMonkey于2017年开展的一项研究中，78%的受访者表示，他们认为初次约会应该由男人买单--但这只适用于异性恋人。于2016年开展的一项研究发现：62%的LGBTQ（包括同性恋在内的特殊性取向群体）单身人士认为：应该由提出约会的人买单。

Those percentages aside, there's still a lot of gray area when it comes to paying the bill. So we called on a handful of relationship experts and HuffPost readers to gauge their feelings on this subject.

如不考虑这些百分比，买单这个问题还存在其它灰色区域。所以我们请教了一些情感专家和《赫芬顿邮报》的一些读者，让他们判断他们对于这个问题的取向。

Who should pick up the check on a first date?

初次约会谁该买单？

According to Alex Williamson, head of brand at the dating app Bumble, a good guiding principle is that whoever does the asking out should be the one picking up the tab.

约会软件Bumble的品牌负责人亚历克斯·威廉森表示，一个较好的指导原则就是：谁主动提出约会就应该由谁买单。

"In my opinion, if one person asked the other out, that person should take responsibility for the check," she told HuffPost. "But in any case, I always think it's reasonable for both people to offer to cover all or part of the check and have a conversation about it."

"我认为如果一个人约另一个人出来，那么这个人就应该负责买单，"她对《赫芬顿邮报》说道。"但任何情况下，我总觉得两个人都应该主动买单或承担一部分金额，并谈论这个话题。"

And remember: If you're the one making plans, don't choose a restaurant or bar that's out of your budget.

记住：如果你是做计划的那个人，千万不要选超出预算的餐厅或酒吧！

"I always tell people, if you aren't comfortable paying for a restaurant, don't recommend it as the location of the date," Williamson said. "If you initiate a date, pick a place where you would be happy to cover the full cost of the bill."

"我总对其他人说，如果你不想把钱花在吃饭上，那就不要建议去餐厅约会，"威廉森说道。"如果你发起了这次约会，那就选一个你愿意买单的地方。"

Talia Goldstein, founder and CEO of the matchmaking company Three Day Rule, takes a more traditional approach with her clients.

Three Day Rule婚介公司的创始人塔利亚·戈尔茨坦让她的客户采取更加传统的方式。

"We encourage the guy to pick up the bill," she told HuffPost. "It might feel silly, antiquated and outdated in a world filled with strong, independent women, but there's nothing wrong with a little bit of tradition."

"我们鼓励男生买单，"她对《赫芬顿邮报》说道。"在一个充满强大、独立的女性世界中，这种行为可能会有点傻、有点过时，但传统一点总没错。"