15大信号表明在我们身边的都是好朋友(1)
An old saying goes, “Surround yourself with the people you want to be like.” Successful people want to surround themselves with successful people. Optimists like to be around optimists. How can you tell if you’re hanging around with the right group of friends for you? Here are 15 signs that you are surrounded by good friends who care about you and not just what you can do for them!
俗话说得好，“你想成为什么样的人，就和什么样的人待在一起。” 成功人士都想和成功人士待在一起。乐观主义者希望身边的人都是乐观主义者。你怎么能知道自己身边的朋友是适合自己的？下面的这15个信号能告诉你，不只是你关心朋友，身边的朋友也关心你。
你的朋友倾听你
A good friend can tell when you need an ear, or just to take the floor for a few minutes and talk something out. More importantly still, they help you determine where you have good, solid, actionable ideas and where they think you’re a little off base.
好朋友能知道你什么时候需要倾听，或知道你只是需要几分钟，把一些话说出来。更重要的是，他们能帮你判断什么时候你的想法是好的、可靠的、可行的，什么时候你的想法是错误的。
你的朋友关心你
Good friends take the time to ask about your life, your interests, and your opinions. They also take the time to be there when you need them, and want to help you be the best person you can be.
好朋友会花时间去询问你的生活、你的兴趣和你的观点。他们在你需要的时候抽出时间陪着你，想帮助你，让你成为最棒的你。
你的朋友知道什么时候为你准备聚会
There’s nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam, celebrating a milestone, or just making an event happen “because.” A group of friends who are really in tune with your needs know exactly when and how to party without taking it to extremes or getting you involved with anything illegal or uncomfortable.
有时发泄一下放松放松、或为具有里程碑意义的事件庆祝一下、或没什么原因就庆祝一下没什么大不了。真正懂得你需要的朋友能明确知道什么时间组织、如何组织聚会而不过分，不会让你卷入不合法或不舒心的事情中。
你的朋友知道何时该结束聚会
Even the best party has to end eventually, and good friends can tell when it’s time to leave. If someone’s getting drunk and belligerent, or you’ve been yawning for the last half hour, they will understand it’s time to call it a night and leave gracefully.
即使是最好的聚会也终会落幕，好朋友能知道该何时离开。如果有人醉了且好战，或最后的半小时你一直在打哈欠，他们会明白该结束了并优雅地离开。
你能感觉到朋友把你的利益挂在心上
You may not always agree with what your friends say or their perceptions of a situation. However, they’re always thinking of what’s best for you in the long run. This can be a tricky line to walk, and sometimes you have an obligation to ignore the advice of others. Nevertheless, a good friend will be less worried about sparing your feelings than looking out for you.
你可能不会总是同意朋友所说的话或朋友对问题的看法。然而从长远看，他们总是考虑如何做对你是最好的。这样做很微妙，有时你就该忽略他人的建议。然而，比起照顾你的情绪，好朋友会更多地为你着想。
你的朋友支持你
Even when you do something your friends don’t agree with, if they’re really good friends, they will support whatever you decide to do, within reason. They may not agree or like what you’re doing, like moving across the country to snag a good-paying job, but they’ll be there with the pizza and beer while you load up the truck!
即使是你做了一些朋友不同意的事情，如果他们真的是你的好朋友，无论你做什么决定，只要在合理的范围内，他们都会支持你的。他们可能不同意或不喜欢你现在做的事情，比如在全国各地跑来跑去，去找一份高薪的工作，但是当你上了车后，他们会拿着比萨和啤酒在那里等着你。
你总是会从他们嘴里听到真相
Good friends don’t lie. (Except on rare occasions of the “Does this dress make me look fat?” sort. Those kinds of lies don’t count, because they are intended to spare your feelings.) When the chips are down and you really need to be told the truth, your friends may hate it…but they’ll do it. This applies in situations like when your friends tell you maybe you’re partying a little too much or working too hard. If they tell you something like this, they’re speaking from the heart. You owe it to them and your friendship to listen.
好朋友不会骗你。（除非是那种“这件衣服是不是让我看起来很胖？”这样偶尔出现的情况。这种谎言不算，因为他们是为了照顾你的感受。）当到了关键时刻，你真的需要知道真相时，你的朋友也许会讨厌那样做……但是他们还是会那样做。还有的时候你的朋友告诉你，你聚会的次数也许太多了或工作太卖力。如果他们对你说类似的话，他们是真心的。你要多谢他们并要认真倾听。
俗话说得好，“你想成为什么样的人，就和什么样的人待在一起。” 成功人士都想和成功人士待在一起。乐观主义者希望身边的人都是乐观主义者。你怎么能知道自己身边的朋友是适合自己的？下面的这15个信号能告诉你，不只是你关心朋友，身边的朋友也关心你。
你的朋友倾听你
A good friend can tell when you need an ear, or just to take the floor for a few minutes and talk something out. More importantly still, they help you determine where you have good, solid, actionable ideas and where they think you’re a little off base.
好朋友能知道你什么时候需要倾听，或知道你只是需要几分钟，把一些话说出来。更重要的是，他们能帮你判断什么时候你的想法是好的、可靠的、可行的，什么时候你的想法是错误的。
你的朋友关心你
Good friends take the time to ask about your life, your interests, and your opinions. They also take the time to be there when you need them, and want to help you be the best person you can be.
好朋友会花时间去询问你的生活、你的兴趣和你的观点。他们在你需要的时候抽出时间陪着你，想帮助你，让你成为最棒的你。
你的朋友知道什么时候为你准备聚会
There’s nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam, celebrating a milestone, or just making an event happen “because.” A group of friends who are really in tune with your needs know exactly when and how to party without taking it to extremes or getting you involved with anything illegal or uncomfortable.
有时发泄一下放松放松、或为具有里程碑意义的事件庆祝一下、或没什么原因就庆祝一下没什么大不了。真正懂得你需要的朋友能明确知道什么时间组织、如何组织聚会而不过分，不会让你卷入不合法或不舒心的事情中。
你的朋友知道何时该结束聚会
Even the best party has to end eventually, and good friends can tell when it’s time to leave. If someone’s getting drunk and belligerent, or you’ve been yawning for the last half hour, they will understand it’s time to call it a night and leave gracefully.
即使是最好的聚会也终会落幕，好朋友能知道该何时离开。如果有人醉了且好战，或最后的半小时你一直在打哈欠，他们会明白该结束了并优雅地离开。
你能感觉到朋友把你的利益挂在心上
You may not always agree with what your friends say or their perceptions of a situation. However, they’re always thinking of what’s best for you in the long run. This can be a tricky line to walk, and sometimes you have an obligation to ignore the advice of others. Nevertheless, a good friend will be less worried about sparing your feelings than looking out for you.
你可能不会总是同意朋友所说的话或朋友对问题的看法。然而从长远看，他们总是考虑如何做对你是最好的。这样做很微妙，有时你就该忽略他人的建议。然而，比起照顾你的情绪，好朋友会更多地为你着想。
你的朋友支持你
Even when you do something your friends don’t agree with, if they’re really good friends, they will support whatever you decide to do, within reason. They may not agree or like what you’re doing, like moving across the country to snag a good-paying job, but they’ll be there with the pizza and beer while you load up the truck!
即使是你做了一些朋友不同意的事情，如果他们真的是你的好朋友，无论你做什么决定，只要在合理的范围内，他们都会支持你的。他们可能不同意或不喜欢你现在做的事情，比如在全国各地跑来跑去，去找一份高薪的工作，但是当你上了车后，他们会拿着比萨和啤酒在那里等着你。
你总是会从他们嘴里听到真相
Good friends don’t lie. (Except on rare occasions of the “Does this dress make me look fat?” sort. Those kinds of lies don’t count, because they are intended to spare your feelings.) When the chips are down and you really need to be told the truth, your friends may hate it…but they’ll do it. This applies in situations like when your friends tell you maybe you’re partying a little too much or working too hard. If they tell you something like this, they’re speaking from the heart. You owe it to them and your friendship to listen.
好朋友不会骗你。（除非是那种“这件衣服是不是让我看起来很胖？”这样偶尔出现的情况。这种谎言不算，因为他们是为了照顾你的感受。）当到了关键时刻，你真的需要知道真相时，你的朋友也许会讨厌那样做……但是他们还是会那样做。还有的时候你的朋友告诉你，你聚会的次数也许太多了或工作太卖力。如果他们对你说类似的话，他们是真心的。你要多谢他们并要认真倾听。
