囧研究：情侣或夫妻间经常说我们会更幸福

When a couple has been together for a very long time, it can be easy to think of themselves as a collective unit, a ‘two-for-one package’, rather than as separate individuals.

当一对夫妻相处久了，他们就把自己当成了一个整体，“两个个体一个整体”而不是单个的存在。

While some may find the notion of excessive interdependence in arelationship slightly nauseating, according to recent research, couples who refer to themselves as “we” and “us” in conversation are more likely to be happier in love than those who don’t.不

过在关系中两个人过分相互依赖有点让人恶心。不过根据最近的一年就如果在对话中将两个人称之“你们”的夫妻在两人的关系中比那些不说的更加幸福。

Researchers from the University of California investigated the correlation between the use of first-person plural pronouns (such as “we”, “our”, “us”) and the health of romantic relationships.

加利福尼亚的研究这门发现在对话中使用第一人称的复数（就像我们，我们的，我们（宾语））能够让保持恋爱关系的和谐健康。

The team, led by psychologist Megan Robbins, analyzed 30 studies involving more than 5,000 participants, half of whom were married.

以心理学家Megan Robbins领导的调研小组，对5000名其中一半是已婚妇女的调查样本，进行了30种调研。

The researchers took five main factors into account: how long the couples have been together; their behaviour within the relationships; the mental health of the participants; their physical health; and how well they look after themselves on a daily basis.

调研者从五个维度提问：在一起的时间，恋爱中两人的行为，被调查者的精神状态和身体状态，每天两人是怎样互相相处的。

They came to the conclusion that “we-talk” proved beneficial in all categories, corresponding with happier relationships on all counts.

而后他们得出，在调查样本中，经常称“我们”的那部分人，在两人的关系中觉得更幸福。

“The benefit of analysing many different couples in a lot of different contexts is that it establishes we-talk isn’t just positively related in one context, but that it indicates positive functioning overall,” says Alexander Karan, a graduate student in Robbins’ laboratory.

在Robbin调研小组中的一名研究生Alexander Karan说，通过调查不同背景各种情侣（夫妇）发现，经常说“ 我们” 的情侣不分背景，在爱恋关系中两人都很融洽。

The study, published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, found that we-talk had a positive effect in relationships across all age groups.

这项研究发表在《社会与个人关系》杂志上，不管年龄大小，习惯说“我们”的情侣的关系都很健康。

Robbins says.“Hearing yourself or a partner say these words could shift individuals’ ways of thinking to be more interdependent, which could lead to a healthier relationship.”

Robbins说“听到你自己或者伴侣说我们可能改变个人为主的思维方式，让你们变得相互一拉，进而让你们的关系变得更加健康。

（翻译：林浔鸥）