时尚双语:如何更好的与女生交往

Although interacting with girls seems like an intimidating endeavor to many guys, adhering to certain principles allows it to be a more comfortable and enjoyable experience for everyone involved.

Steps:

's important to maintain self confidence by being yourself around girls. If you adopt an alternate personality to attract girls, you will eventually be weighed down with the feeling that your true self isn't good enough. It may help to develop and improve your social skills, but any girls that don't appreciate you for who you are don't deserve your attention.

ect all girls stand a much better chance of making a good overall impression if you treat girls that don't interest you just as nicely as those that do. This doesn't mean that you need to talk to or flirt with every girl, but don't ignore them or treat them dismissively. Don't talk to a girl about other girls' attractiveness; it's distasteful and can degrade the girl's opinion of herself. You generally shouldn't talk about past relationships you've had, or other girls that interest you; it detracts from building a new relationship.

eye girls like it when you can't take your eyes off them, but not when you're staring at their boobs. Although there are some girls that may enjoy such attention, you won't offend anyone by focusing on her face instead. Do not ogle her. Just remember to use discretion and show proper respect.

them feel s like it when you're forward but not in a creepy way. Smile at her in a way that's clear, friendly, and/or playful. If you feel compelled to honesty, you can offer a sincere compliment. For example, you could say "Did anyone ever tell you that you have a beautiful smile?" Eyes are another good one- they're not the easiest thing to notice, and it shows you were looking at her face. Select something good that is reserved for her only; it will make her feel wonderfully special, admired, and beautiful.

a s love guys that are polite and courteous. It's just a matter of doing simple things like holding doors open for them and being respectful in other ways. Some claim chivalry is dead, but if you believe that, then you're going to have some problems getting a girl's interest.

your manners in h the foul language. Don't pick your nose, scratch your butt, pick at your body in any way, fart, or burp, cough, or sneeze with your mouth wide open, etc. Gross her out, and you'll be lucky if she ever looks at you again.

her g funny is one of the most attractive qualities a guy can have, and if you're not "handsome", a girl will usually overlook that! If you're not goofy but you have a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor, use that. Just watch your timing and try not to be too goofy, or you may make a fool of yourself. It's okay to tease her a little, but generally not about her appearance.

cewhen you're having a conversation and she seems uncomfortable, change the subject. Watch her movements, if she's shifting her weight a lot and not making eye contact, chances are she's uncomfortable.

gnizethat physical contact should be limited by the state of your relationship.

*Acquaintances — A handshake when introducing yourself is probably a reasonable limit for a first meeting. You can also subtly brush your hand against her hand or arm.

*Casual Friends or Prospective Dates — You could try something like touching her hair or playfully poking her in the side and asking if she is ticklish. This is generally considered flirting, and if a girl doesn't appreciate your advances, it's best to apologize and refrain from making similar contact.

*Good Friends — It is generally acceptable to give friendly hugs to girls that you know fairly well, even if you aren't a couple. Just be sensitive to the girl's feelings about it; pressuring her to hug you will make her uncomfortable.

*Boyfriend/Girlfriend — When you've grown closer, you can hold her hand or wrap your arm around her shoulders or waist when you're walking together. With her consent, you can also kiss her.

Tips:
Be the same around her and your friends.
Never use the words "hot" or "sexy" unless it's in a joking fashion.
Don't ever tell her that she looks bad.
Don't try too hard. She'll notice.
Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. A lot of girls find that really cute.
Manners: use them! If you don't have them, then get them!

Warnings:
Do not make sexist jokes.
Don't focus too much on one girl if she isn't enjoying the extra attention. She may get annoyed, and it will likely hurt your relationship.
Never tell any of your friends what happens.
Get to know her friends and be friends with them. This will show her that you're nice and friendly.
There is nothing wrong with trying to make her feel special long into a relationship, but trying to kiss up to her, especially within the first few weeks and months of knowing her, will do more harm than good, and you will be labeled more as a friend who tries to buy her attention than a potential mate.

对很多男生而言与女生交往简直是噩梦，虽然大家都很渴望。遵循以下几个简单的原则将会给你带来很多愉快的体验。

【原则】

1.做你自己。在与女生们交往的过程中自信是非常重要的，而做你自己恰恰可以提供你所需要的自信。如果你通过佯装别人去吸引她们的话，到头来你会感到很失落——你真实的自我差劲到无法吸引女生。做你自己可能会培养你的社交技巧。请记住，任何不欣赏你的女生都不值得你关注。

2.同样地尊重每个女生。如果你将恐龙和美女一视同仁的话，这会给她们带来深刻的印象，你也会因此得到更好的机 会。这并不意味着你得同每个女生闲扯或调情，但请不要无视恐龙们的存在，更不要去鄙视她们。不要同女生们谈论其他女生的魅力，这会让她们感到厌恶，甚至觉 得身价降低。原则上别扯你的那些风流往事，或其他的女友候选人，这对建立新的关系是非常不利的。

3.眉来眼去。如果你的目光已经无法从女生身上移开，没关系，很多女生喜欢这样，但是——别老盯着她胸部看，当然我们不排除有个别女生有此嗜好，但请小心。通常来说盯着脸看是一个不错的选择，但别色迷迷地。记住你的目光中应透露出你慎重和尊敬——不行就装一下嘛。

4.让她们感到很特别。女生们很欣赏你的勇敢，但不要吓到她们。单纯友好甚至戏虐的微笑都是可以的。如果你希望 能坦诚一些，可以诚挚的恭维一下。例如，“有人曾告诉过你的微笑很迷人吗？”眼睛也是个不错的选择，即使你不容易注意到，这也可以暗示你有认真地看她的 脸。选择她独有的特点切入，这会让她感到——极其特别，受人爱慕，美丽。

5.做一个绅士。女生们喜欢那些彬彬有礼的男生。做到这一点也很简单——帮她们开门，或者其他的礼节。注意：某些骑士时代的礼节已经过时，这会让她们感到很诡异——弄巧成拙。

6.讲礼貌。当面爆口粗，抠鼻屎，挠屁股，放屁，咳嗽，张大嘴打喷嚏等等行为都会让她感到恶心。如果你不小心点的话，就别指望她再看你一眼啦。

7.逗她开心。风趣是每个男生都应具有的品质，相比于“帅气”，女生们更看重此。如果你智商不低，而且还有很独特/毒辣的幽默，尽管拿来用吧。把握时机也很重要。原则上不要拿她的相貌来开玩笑。

8.话题的选择。如果你发现她们当前的话题感到不适的话，请务必换一个。

9.肢体接触。肢体接触的范围依当前（关系）所处的阶段而定。

*熟人。初次见面可以握握手。你的手可以轻轻地划过她的手或胳膊。

*临时的朋友或约会预备队员。摸摸她的头发，或者挠挠痒。这些会被认为是调情，如果对方不喜欢，立即道歉并克制一点。

*好朋友。友善的拥抱是可以的，但请留意一下她的感觉，别压的她难受。

*男女朋友。牵她的手，搂她的腰，吻她的唇。KISS之前最好能得到她的同意。

【友情提示】

异性同性朋友面前一个样。免得别人说你重色轻友。

除了开玩笑，“性感”“操”等词儿别用。

永远别说她看起来很糟。

追的别太用功，她会注意到的。

不小心做了囧事，别紧张，女生们会认为这很可爱。

学礼貌些。

【警告】

别讲有性别歧视的笑话。

如何女生不愿意，就别猛追了。

别告诉每个哥们你在追她。难道你就不怕有人更你抢？

与她的女朋友们适当接触一下，显示你的友善。

别老是急性子，弄巧成拙，收到“好人卡”可是很令人郁闷的。