积极乐观的人不会做的14件事(1)
1. They Don’t Assume the Worst
不总往坏处想
It’s amazing how many problems wouldn’t exist if we didn’t invent them. Positive people know that leaping to conclusions is usually a bad idea. Instead of freaking out about an unanswered text (“What if they don’t like me?”), they go on with their day (“hmm, they must be busy!”). Before they decide another person is untrustworthy, they make an honest effort to find out more about them.
如果我们不去乱想，其实很多问题根本就不存在，懂不懂？积极的人知道太在意结局不是个好办法。与其花时间去乱想那些没有答案的东西（如果他们不喜欢我怎么办？），不如就去认为他们也有自己的生活（恩，他们实在太忙！）。在决定判定一个人靠不住之前，他们会积极地去了解更多。
2. They Don’t Resist the Truth
不抗拒事实
It’s easy to live in a lie because lies can grow so strong that it can eventually make people forget about the truth. Positive people know that they need to face the truth and live with it because making excuses will never get a solution for what have gone wrong.
活在谎言之中非常简单，因为谎言会慢慢变大以致让你忽视真理的存在。积极的人知道他们需要去面对事实，接受事实。一味的找理由永远不会为那些难题找到解决方法。
3. They Don’t Hold On To Resentment
不怨恨
Positive people understand that resentment only causes pain in life over and over again, so they let go of it. They choose to accept and forgive things happened in the past to move on with what they have learned from the incidents.
积极的人明白怨恨只会给生活增加层层伤痛，不如索性放下。他们选择去接受原谅过去那些事情，带着经验教训继续朝前走。
4. They Don’t Forget the Little Things
事无小事
Is it easy to forget the little things? Certainly. But positive people don’t make a habit of it. Instead, they express gratitude for every blessing, no matter how big or small. They know it’s silly to think more stuff will make them feel better if they can’t be happy about what they have.
小事是不是特别容易忘记？当然。但积极的人不会让自己有这样的坏习惯，他们会感激任何一件事，不论大小。他们知道正是现在所拥有的一切才让他们感到如此幸福快乐。
5. They Don’t Pass the Buck
不推卸责任
Positive people realize they are the CEO of their life and thus take full responsibility for how things are. They didn’t get “stuck in traffic” — they were late. They didn’t “have something come up” — they forgot. Positive people don’t claim “they can’t help it,” because they can do anything they set their mind to.
积极的人把自己看成人生的主宰者，对所有的事情负全责。他们不会在人生”堵车“而迟到。也不会因为忘记而“遇到突发情况”。积极的人不会说“他们无能为力”，因为只要他们想，就一定可以做到。
6. They Don’t See Problems as “Problems”
不把困难当“困难”
对积极的人来说，“困难”是一种“挑战”。他们相信每个困难都暗含被发掘的机遇。积极的人抓住机会去不断挑战自己提高生活。
7. They Don’t Resign Themselves to “Reality.”
不向现实屈服
大部分人说到"现实”都觉得是一个梦想灭绝的恐怖地狱。积极的人知道只要坚持和奋斗，一切皆有可能，所以他们选择书写自己的现实。
不总往坏处想
It’s amazing how many problems wouldn’t exist if we didn’t invent them. Positive people know that leaping to conclusions is usually a bad idea. Instead of freaking out about an unanswered text (“What if they don’t like me?”), they go on with their day (“hmm, they must be busy!”). Before they decide another person is untrustworthy, they make an honest effort to find out more about them.
如果我们不去乱想，其实很多问题根本就不存在，懂不懂？积极的人知道太在意结局不是个好办法。与其花时间去乱想那些没有答案的东西（如果他们不喜欢我怎么办？），不如就去认为他们也有自己的生活（恩，他们实在太忙！）。在决定判定一个人靠不住之前，他们会积极地去了解更多。
2. They Don’t Resist the Truth
不抗拒事实
It’s easy to live in a lie because lies can grow so strong that it can eventually make people forget about the truth. Positive people know that they need to face the truth and live with it because making excuses will never get a solution for what have gone wrong.
活在谎言之中非常简单，因为谎言会慢慢变大以致让你忽视真理的存在。积极的人知道他们需要去面对事实，接受事实。一味的找理由永远不会为那些难题找到解决方法。
3. They Don’t Hold On To Resentment
不怨恨
Positive people understand that resentment only causes pain in life over and over again, so they let go of it. They choose to accept and forgive things happened in the past to move on with what they have learned from the incidents.
积极的人明白怨恨只会给生活增加层层伤痛，不如索性放下。他们选择去接受原谅过去那些事情，带着经验教训继续朝前走。
4. They Don’t Forget the Little Things
事无小事
Is it easy to forget the little things? Certainly. But positive people don’t make a habit of it. Instead, they express gratitude for every blessing, no matter how big or small. They know it’s silly to think more stuff will make them feel better if they can’t be happy about what they have.
小事是不是特别容易忘记？当然。但积极的人不会让自己有这样的坏习惯，他们会感激任何一件事，不论大小。他们知道正是现在所拥有的一切才让他们感到如此幸福快乐。
5. They Don’t Pass the Buck
不推卸责任
Positive people realize they are the CEO of their life and thus take full responsibility for how things are. They didn’t get “stuck in traffic” — they were late. They didn’t “have something come up” — they forgot. Positive people don’t claim “they can’t help it,” because they can do anything they set their mind to.
积极的人把自己看成人生的主宰者，对所有的事情负全责。他们不会在人生”堵车“而迟到。也不会因为忘记而“遇到突发情况”。积极的人不会说“他们无能为力”，因为只要他们想，就一定可以做到。
6. They Don’t See Problems as “Problems”
不把困难当“困难”
对积极的人来说，“困难”是一种“挑战”。他们相信每个困难都暗含被发掘的机遇。积极的人抓住机会去不断挑战自己提高生活。
7. They Don’t Resign Themselves to “Reality.”
不向现实屈服
大部分人说到"现实”都觉得是一个梦想灭绝的恐怖地狱。积极的人知道只要坚持和奋斗，一切皆有可能，所以他们选择书写自己的现实。
